Saturday, February 14, 2009

In Honor of Valentine's

Here's something I've been thinking lately especially with Valentine's Day here.... Do you notice how in today's society mainly mainstream media if I want to be alone as a woman there's something just not right with you. You should be out there looking for someone to complete you. You should be in a relationship. Well, I'm alone with no relationship either which I guess I described by saying that I'm alone. However, you can be alone even when you're in a relationship (it's just not the right relationship for you).



I'm bombarded with all these commercials and adverts that tell me about the joy of being in a relationship which I'm not doubting. There is a part of me that thinks that relationships are great. Here's the deal, I want to deal with (I'm not going to say fix) all the things that I have in my life before I get into a relationship. I don't know if I'm ready for a serious commitment. Chronologically, I might be in my late twenties but I feel like I'm 21. Hopefully, I look it too! I don't want a man to complete me. Trust me, I swooned when Tom Cruise said it Renee Zellweger in Jerry Maguire. Honestly, I wanted that so bad for myself as a teenager and didn't see how that would happen. After all, isn't there always a hint of disbelief that runs through your mind that anything like that could happen in reality. Well, it ran through my mind.



Upon reflection here is what I decided on, I'm going to concentrate on loving me in the highest sense. This isn't a place where I'm conceited or anything but where I look at myself and say "I love you." How can I expect someone else to love me and I don't love and treasure myself. I've stopped looking outside of myself for fulfillment. It's something incredible and a wonderful process that's interesting. I will spend the rest of my life learning to love every facet of me. When I love myself and I'm open to love then love will come into my life. I'm going to take action when nudged like going out on a date and be clear on what I want out of my love life. However, until then I'm just going to be dating myself! How come there can't be any commercials or adverts for that?

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